Sunday, February 20, 2011

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Mending Misunderstandings

The Facts:

So yesterday (Feb 16, 2011) Iyanla Vanzant was on the Oprah show so that she and Oprah could clear the air about some beef that they had with each other for the past 11, yes 11 years. Ok, first of all I had no idea that Iyanla and Oprah had any issue at all, so this was kind of a surprise to me, but out of curiosity I decided to watch to see what was going on with the two very popular ladies.

Well long story short. Iyanla was poor and living in the projects and somehow she and Oprah linked up after Iyanla wrote a book. Oprah was so impressed with her that in 1998 she invited her on her show, and you KNOW anybody Oprah likes and has on her show that person is guaranteed to blow up (ie. Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz, Susie Orman, just to name a few) so, anyway it went from Iyanla coming on one time to Oprah giving her a slot on her show every Tuesday where Oprah sat in the audience and let Iyanla have the stage, now that’s love.
Iyanla went from a poor lady on welfare living in the projects to being known to the WORLD as a very profound writer, author, life coach, and motivational speaker and making something like 3.3 million dollars at the height of her career, sooo, fast forward, everything was going well with Iyanla and Harpo studios when Iyanla received a call from a representative of Barbara Walters offering Iyanla her very own talk show, well Iyanla initially declined that offer, went to Harpo studios and had a meeting with Oprah and some of Harpo studios execs to let them know what was being offered to her and after fasting and praying she felt like God was saying to her that “'this is the anointed time, not the appointed time.” Well, Oprah didn’t want to stand in the way of God so they decided to let Iyanla go. Iyanla got her own show and it only last one season, she didn't even have her own office. The producers that worked for her hadn't even read her books and couldn't pronounce her name. Everything just fell apart. Did Iyanla get star struck when she got the offer from Barbara Walter? Was she trying to force Oprah and Harpo to give her a show because she was getting other offers and it ended up backfiring on her?

Here's what I think:

Regardless of what was going on in Iyanla brain or what her intentions were is something we will never know; however, It makes my heart smile to see people open to understanding what they may have misunderstood whether it was 11 years ago or just yesterday(honestly I wish I had that opportunity with my ex bestfriend). It shows a huge sign of maturity and willingness to forgive and I respect that to the highest degree. I believe Oprah and Harpo studios was trying to shape and mold Iyanla so that she could be her very best and when Oprah felt like she was there she would give her, her own show, but I think Iyanla got a little inpatient and when opportunity knocked she opened the door walked thru and later realized that it was probably the biggest mistake she made in her life. Sometimes when what seems to be a great opportunity we often think that it’s God telling us to move, but if we’re careful and really listen to his voice we will be able to decipher what he is trying to give us vs. what we so anxiously want or think is for us. Iyanla made the move not God, and even though she fasted and prayed she did not wait on him (something I’m a victim of) but when great things happen it will feel right, there will be no pressure. So we have to just learn how to stand still in the midst of a storm and listen and move when God says.
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Sunday, February 13, 2011

January Favorite Things

So those are a few things I'm obssessed with this month. The Silver candle holder I fell in love with when I saw it at Bath and Body Works (B&BW) and when your girl saw that it was only $5.00 I not only snatched 1 I got 2 Lol(the other one looks a little diffrent probably should have posted a pic) and If you've been in B&BW over the last few weeks then you know they put out their spring candles, and honestly I couldn't decided which one to choose because they all smell sooooo good, so I got Peach Billinie(sp ck) and Passion Flower and they smell A-Mazing!! ya'll they're a little expensive $20.00 per candle,but if you love candles like me then I would definitley recommend going and getting a few. Then I saw this really cute little turtle and when I opened it there was a candle inside that smells delicious so I had to get that,plus it makes a really cute conversation piece on my NEW bookshelf. Ya'll when I tell ya I've been wanting a bookshelf like this for awhile trust me I've been wanting one for a long time, but I never had enough money to get one,but praise be to God I finally was able to get one and I love it!!! I got it from Target it was $130.00,but trust me it well worth it. It's very sturdyand pretty easy to assemble. I hope you girls like some of my fav's for this month.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Valentines Shmalentines

I was debating on whether I wanted to post this entry, but O, well here goes.
So it’s been 28 years and I’ve never had a valentine and honestly it never really bothered me until now. I really don’t want to be that girl that is bitter and dreading Valentine ’s Day, but I would be lying to you guys and to myself if I said I’m looking forward to it. Honestly I’m dreading it. I don’t know what it is that has me in this funk this year. Maybe because it’s reminding me that I’m getting older and I’ve never been able to share that special day with anyone. I’m not working so I have a lot of free time and it seems like my mind has been on overload with thinking and longing for a honest and genuine relationship. GOSH I don’t want to be that girl that life becomes consumed with wanting to be with someone and everything I say and do revolves around being with someone. It sucks being single. I’ve gotta find something to occupy my mind so that I don’t go into a depressed state. Last year I treated myself to $200 worth of things from Vicki Secret. Who knows what I'll do this year